Here’s an article to help you find out. https://www.eqi.org/how_to_know_if_your_parents_are_abusing_you.htm
This last comment from ‘Susan, Chicago’ is beautiful:
I want to add one thing… as an adult, I knew my parents were neglectful and damaging to me but i [sic] never fully realized the depth of their damage until I had a child of my own[.] As we have come to each growth moment, I realize anew and with surprise how continuously my parents left me to fend for myself –medically, hygiene, emotionally, safety, education, socially. i [sic] will never understand how they could do this to me and my siblings, but I just don’t think about it anymore. I have been stedfast [sic] –not perfect, but stedfast [sic] -in my family responsibilities, and I am proud that we have had a loving home and a child who feels loved and supported no matter what. — Susan, Chicago
Especially this… ‘I will never understand how they could do this to me and my siblings.’
Bravo to Susan.
I’m sharing this because it’s something that I found while researching, this past year, for Reality & Trust.
So many things to say. Will say them. In the book.