No one can tell you how to design your life. You have to figure it out, yourself.
Instead of talking about what I did and how I got to where I am, as so many, many uninteresting queries arrive almost every week, I will ignore these requests.
But there is this…
If you want to figure it out for yourself, this is a grab-bag of my favorite tools that I had learned, from people, from literature (as in books), and from journeys to many, many places, most often on my own.