For the child of the narcissist, adulthood is about learning how to attach in a healthy way to others. It’s about learning how to attach to one’s own body system. It is about learning how to rely on another person for safety, connection and love. It is about unlearning the patterns of self-loathing, isolation, chronic-pleasing behaviours. And, it’s about unfreezing the authentic self. It’s about cultivating the real life energy and re-invigorating the brain which was tortured and imprisoned by the malevolent, malignant abuse of a parent who did not have the capacity to love.