You can’t change it, but you can adjust..
Reading about Gen X, I’m always kind of half-smiling when I see them describe us as ‘digitally savvy’. Yeah, I remember when it started to happen and we were like, ‘Okay.’
Blogging is my only social media thing, these days. I still blog, like this, and I can’t help but use the internet and its various reach-y-out-y handiness to keep creating events, that is, after all, what I love, gathering people.
Conversing. Meaningfully, and not trivially. I was using design and art as an excuse to get people together and _mix it up_ through professional-is things like design charettes, brand identity design workshops and, occasionally, book launches and art shows. But really, it was the mixx I was going for, and still am, in the various ongoing in-progress conversation salons that are still managing to actually happen, (because I’m the kind of person that knows how to make a thing like ‘quality conversation space’ actually happen). Even online. Or in Vietnam. I can do it, despite online-ness, or the fact that I do not speak Vietnamese. Why?
It has to do with being better able to observe, and the nuances that are nonverbal tell you worlds, while writing about people I meet here, and the things they communicate, to each other, and to me, and to, sometimes when they open up, and they do, and it’s brilliant, and HT to my new friends H and U and T and T whom I need to visit in Hanoi one of these days, especially them, and, well. This is a moment of lovely discovery and sharing. I like it. Where I am. I mean, wow. In other words, I love to design the spaces for exactly that which I think the technological ‘social’ spaces have killed. Slowness. Connexion. And depth.
A friend’s story about slowness..
Samir Shukla‘s piece on this idea really resonated, with me. Here’s a snippet..
‘The impatience I observe among contemporary youngsters reminds me of my own impatience and restlessness at that age. The difference obviously is that we didn’t have the instant access to what we were looking for and didn’t instantly communicate random thoughts and emotional outbursts.
‘The soft power of thoughtful dialogue seems to take a backseat to 24-hour information and news cycles. In our current climate of political and ideological grandstanding, it seems that reasonable voices are drowned out or have simply decided to not waste their breath or peace of mind*…
‘This can change… Those who want to connect with friends or other communities, but not wallow in the mud pits of social media, have to forge the slower paths. They must construct their own methods of slowness… This effort requires thoughtful slowness, layered with requisite maturity.
‘I often wonder and think back to a time just a couple of decades ago, just before the advent of the internet and cell phones. We did everything we do now, but there was measured pleasure in slower information. Of course, we also didn’t know what was technologically possible until it happened. But comparing the times, it seems phone conversations were warmer and less hurried**, good information was more valuable because it didn’t come easily while bad information had to work much harder to gain ground…
‘I’m not interested in turning back the time, just turning back to slower, thoughtful connectedness.’
Read the full story here: https://saathee.com/news_editors-desk-samir-shukla-slow-it-down
*This is me.
**So true. *Sigh*.