5. There’s mutual empathy. Another key quality of a healthy relationship is empathy. Empathy means trying to understand what your partner is feeling. It isn’t about trying to fix your partner’s concerns and problems, necessarily, but about being able to be there for them. If you can pay more attention to what’s going on with your partner and strive to see things through their eyes, you will find yourself getting closer over time rather than more distant.
Making people happy. How do you do it? It’s never really easy, is it, to understand the mechanics of doing things in a way that actually resonate meaningfully, if you don’t know what a person likes, or wants, or cares about. Surely it takes time to get to know someone enough to be able to offer the kinds of small, thoughtful gifts that say, ‘I care.’ (more…)
I will try. To write the things. Straight up, without the abstraction that I usually put into these notes. Because it’s simplifying it: just telling a story, as it is, without getting lost in the mindscapes and instead focusing on the actual being there part.
The look and feel; the moment’s quintessences. There are multiple ones. As if, there are instances of it, and levels, and layers, too.
But wait. This is the reflection bit that I said I would leave to the side, and get to plot and stuff, just write the daily stories, here, where I am. In Vietnam. So. Let me back up, and talk about the story as it started, when it did, three days ago. Three, only just three. My, a world can open, in the space of 72 hours.
I’ll put the feelings together, the new covid cases and the news of those and how it’s been playing out, here. Another chapter for EotR, which is set in this place where I am since it rains nicely, often, and that reminds me of West Cork.
So, it begins.
A new start.
A lovely sunny day… Một ngày nắng đẹp
And finding yourself in the world… Tìm mình trong thế giới
These are the things. Themes. Along with of course illusions, which relate quite tidily with the premise of EotR.
I’ll share the local stories that are coming into shape in a new fashion very soon, with V. Who has inspired these new beginnings. I started again, today, in a new vein and I think… it’s rather sprightly. This is different. This is new. All kinds of amazing things are starting to uncalculate, and it’s okay if they don’t make an equation again, because maybe there just aren’t any rigid ‘fixed’ quantities, anyway, and you just have to be okay with ‘uncertainty’ in the cloud, if that’s where you are, and I think… sometimes that’s where I am, but also, I forgot, I’m here, too.