Here’s where I am today. Researching and learning more about listening, active listening in particular.

When was the last time you really truly listened to someone else? Without thinking about what you were going to say, next? Without being defensive (defensive listening is a thing)? With really simply just being there, ready to connect, and let someone talk, until they’re finished talking?


According to VeryWellMind, ‘Active listening is a communication skill that involves going beyond simply hearing the words that another person speaks. It’s about actively processing and seeking to understand the meaning and intent behind them. It requires being a mindful and focused participant in the communication process.’


I think this is a very rare thing to get to experience in the 24/7 world. I mean, when do we slow down, really look at each other, really pay attention. Quieting is one way to go into the very comfortable thing that can happen when reflection and pause come into shape.

Active listening is a way to allow others to feel heard, and closeness to develop, from there. Real closeness, not just hanging out, pretending.

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Active listening

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I updated the page about Soft Skills, with this. More about it is here.

relationships

Seek first to understand, then, to be understood

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‘I’ll meet you there’

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Mirror

 


One of my favorite things to do is host an online writing workshop, called The Mirror.

It is a set of writing prompts, that also includes an interactive component.

There is a lot to say about the purpose of reflection, including the pandemic-related focuses on ‘what am I doing?’ and ‘what’s really important?’ bringing the importance of the big work of thinking clearly about one’s own self-knowledge into a sharper relief.

Learn more at my personal site, dipikakohli.com, and check ‘eWorkshops’.

apply to the mirror

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End of the Rainbow (2020)

My first book, The Elopement, was about running off to Ireland to get married. Kind of. I didn’t mean to run off, and I didn’t mean to get married. Lots of things happen in the course of, well, youth. Next year marks the 20-year anniversary of the events in that book’s main story, and I wanted to write a follow-up one. Its working title is End of the Rainbow.  

 

Order End of the Rainbow

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The Mirror

Update: July, 2023

 

THE MIRROR.

It’s a place to talk. Mostly, 1:0, which means, solitude and space are good to have access to for this to make the best of it. Carve out some time fo yourself. Use the prompts you’ll get every week to get into the conversations that help you see what really matters.

I created these prompts from 20 years’ conversations with many people who have different learning styles, as well as some career work in journalism and brand identity design. Those were where I learned to ask questions that get us talking much more in detail about things, not so generally. After some time, in rich exchanges, you can uncover something cool. That you can only get to if you get into reflection. For real, not just talking about it. Doing it.

This is the place for you to explore and experience my way of finding things out, through writing, if you want to.

It’s a workshop that you cans hare your responses with me, through. At the end, I’ll send you a 1-page mini report which encapsulates what I heard you say. Some people have told me this is the most important piece of the workshop, for them. Seeing everything that they told me getting shared back, in a succinct way. Perhaps with some extra pieces to it, things to go and try, from there.

 

What is it?

This is what I offer, in The Mirror.

Eight prompts.

Over 8 weeks.

Its goal is to help you arrive at the center of this one important question:

‘What is it that I value? Truly, deeply, and that I decided was important to me.’

Discover it. The cost is USD160 for 8 weeks.

There is no fee to apply.

Apply here.

Selected candidates will be invited to register.

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