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This is the last week of exploring #softskills in the e-mag S P A C E. Things will change thematically in the summer. I’m going to talk about ‘A Change of Perspective.’ You might be wondering why anyone would make a magazine for themselves to focus on topics and write about them in a series. I was told by KT, an artist I admire and respect, that I create ‘collections’, and I couldn’t agree more. After he pointed it out, I stopped writing personal memoirs for Kismuth and though about what kind of collections I could create, instead. Some of the seasons of S P A C E I recall with great affinity have titles like, ‘In the Vernacular,’ ‘Autumn Leaves,’ and ‘A Philosophy of the Moment.’ Going to places, seeing what I might find, running into people, going out of my comfort zone, looking into the new, and packing what I heard, saw, felt, and discovered into a 16-page zine every week was a satisfying way to process as well as create an artefact, too.

I think all this exploration has helped me refine my communciation skills quite a bit, given that there were so many cross-cultural contexts (Finland, Denmark, Viet Nam, Malaysia, etc). You had to be on your toes and read the air and follow the rules. You had to listen. You couldn’t learn without doing those things. I was taught, in schools in the United States, that the thing to do is assert your point of view (loudly, sometimes aggressively), but this does not work in most places I found myself looking for the stories, over in Southeast Asia and Northern Europe – quiet does, however, and it’s the quiet that I like to write about a lot for Kismuth, now. See Into the Quiet, for example.

The zines in S P A C E are a documentation of the human connexions I took care to note; these were formed through multi-layered conversations with just a handful, in each place. It takes time to build rapport and trust, and I take that time to do it, when I am making S P A C E issues because they have to be genuine, honest, and reported from a place of having done one’s homework to understand. Deeply, not superfcially. So it was, and so it is, to me, to this day as well.  Discover more about S P A C E, how to subscribe to get it, and how to be part of the ongoing conversations, too.

See you this summer for S P A C E | Summer 2024, ‘A Change of Perspective.’

Here is a link.

http://chuffed.org/project/spacethezine

Thanks.

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Communication skills

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Philip Oroni

 

 

Soft Skills in the workplace, at home, and in the world

&Cojournal, 100 Conversations, vignettes

Soft Skills

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See https://kismuth.com/soft-skills-in-the-workplace-at-home-and-in-the-world/

 

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Soft Skills mini-conference No. 2

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This season I am reading articles, and conversing with experts, on Soft Skills for my weekly e-mag, S P A C E. This involves a lot of internet conversation, back-and-forth about how it works when it works well. Of course, this is a spectrum.

The more you read and discover, the more you find out.

It’s not like anyone has this perfectly down pat, but, I think, if we can aim to understand someone by giving them room to talk and not thinking while they’re talking about [insert anything] or being defensive or taking it personally or judging, then the result will be much better quality. In terms of communicating well. My opinion.

Communicating effectively in 2024. How do you do it?

It’s very easy to talk about this and it’s hard to do it; but there are tools, there are kits, there are quizzes and self-assessment tools all over the internet right now, because we are in an era of multi-channel communication and ‘even silence says something’ thinking which is hard to work with if you have something that is very real and labeled ‘information anxiety.’

I am reading about those things, too.


Talking about talking


Soft Skills, in this current season.

I’ll expand further, in my crowdfunded zine, S P A C E. It’s a weekly.

Meantime, if you want to hear more, or get links to some of the best sources I’ve found, definitely let me know; say hi.

Thanks.

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Listening to understand, not to reply

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More is here.

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Soft Skills: A series of conversations in the cloud

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Soft Skills

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What are soft skills? Why are they important?

 

Talking about soft skills, the job site Indeed says:

Soft skills are abilities that relate to how you work and interact with other people. Commonly noted soft skills include communication, teamwork and other interpersonal skills. Employers look for candidates with soft skills as these skills are hard to teach and are important for long-term success. Soft skills are different from hard skills, which are technical in nature and job-specific.

 

In their ‘HR Toolkit’ category, the website Workable blogs:

‘Soft skills are general traits not specific to any job, helping employees excel in any workplace. They include communication, teamwork, and adaptability, often termed as transferable or interpersonal skills. They’re essential for professional success.’

‘Essential.’

Let’s explore, then.

 


Soft skills vis-a-vis the conversation salon


I was happily writing my books for these last ten years, but it’s time to bring some of what I’ve learned from memoir-writing, namely, the work required to reflect, and deeply consider, multiple angles and listen for those (even 1:0, this matters), for others purposes, now. That’s why I’m going to invite anyone curious about soft skills to a ‘mini-conference.’ We’ll talk in a forum I’ll host on Zoom voice; no more than 4, because, it’s the way I like to host these open spaces. See more about Open Space Technology at the Wikipedia page for it.

So, whoever comes is the right people. It starts when it starts, it’s over when it’s over, and whatever happens is the only thing that could’ve. In a nutshell, that’s what ‘open space’ means. I’ve adapted it slightly, here and there, over these last 20 years for my conversation salons, roundtables, ‘parties’, and various get-togethers with new and different others convening for the ‘craic,’ as we would have said, in West Cork. There, and other places, like Seattle, Durham NC, Phnom Penh, are where I’ve spent chunks of time in a row (3-10 years), and where I’ve gotten to understand how other people explore, engage, invite, connect, and become part of a conversation that’s elegant, not just there.

 


Making space for ‘Soft Skills’ dialogues


Personally, I think Soft Skills come right into play in parallel with designing space for elegant conversation; that’s what I’d like to explore with HR professionals, this spring. The event is free to participate in, but application is required.

Apply here.

More from there if it’s a fit.


Connect with Kismuth


More there and perhaps on LinkedIn for Kismuth and Kismuth on Facebook. Let me look into how to make the best use of these channels, for 2024’s goals for Kismuth to connect leaders in HR. To be continued, in an empathetic, conversation-led way.

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